It's Anti Bullying Week and Cyber Safe Ireland are marking it with guest blogs each day. Read their first blog today, 'Conversations with Teens about bullying' which I was delighted to do as part of this initiative. Click here to read more
Just recently, I was asked to give a talk in a school because a certain child – let’s call her ‘Niamh’ – was causing a lot of problems as a result of her bullying behaviour. I had barely put up my first slide in the presentation when the first sob emanated from Niamh. To my utter amazement, Niamh’s sobs continued unabated throughout the talk as she explained loudly at every opportunity how she was the victim of terrible bullying within the school. Here I talk about the 'cry bully' for mummypages.ie and how to deal with one.
We are all in search of our tribe but, sadly, a lot of kids can get hurt in the process of making friends, breaking friends and then starting all over again. Here's a piece I wrote for Mummypages.ie on 'Girl drama and being excluded'
It’s just so tiresome for parents to be forced on the defensive every single place they go. On a family day out to the zoo or to a theme park - ‘No, you can’t have an ice cream’. Going swimming and as they walk into the leisure centre - ‘No, you can’t have a smoothie’. A trip to the cinema and, yet again, parents are forced into the hard-faced negative - ‘No junk food – the cinema is the treat.’ Even in the chemist - ‘No you can’t have a lollypop’! All these ‘no’s’ are exhausting, and they set a negative and irritable tone to every outing with the kids. In this article for mummypages.ie, I explore 'Sweet lies: The danger of our treat culture'.
Bullying is one of those emotive issues; it is so scarring that everyone loses the head and all rationality sometimes flies out the window... Anyone has experienced bullying knows that it has a profound impact, but why do people bully? And how can we get them to stop? Here's an article, I did for mummypages.ie on 'A perspective on bullying'.
Eckhart Tolle nailed it when he said, ‘Worry pretends to be necessary, but serves no useful purpose.’ Anxious people all too often believe that they need to worry about certain events so that they will be adequately prepared for every eventuality, but this is a fallacy – worry actually saps our mental strength, and pessimistic people have been proven to be less able to handle disasters than optimistic people. In this article for mummypages.ie, I write about 'Helping the anxious child'