Stella O'Malley works as a freelance writer focusing on mental health and well-being concerns.
Here is a selection of some pieces recently published
IRISH INDEPENDENT - SUNDAY INDEPENDENT - IRISH TIMES
Saturday, 17/08/2019, Opinion: ‘None of us can keep loved ones safe all the time - but we can all be compassionate if tragedy strikes'. An opinion piece following the tragic death of Nóra Quoirin.
Wednesday, 14/08/2019, Opinion: 'In a world where families can be struck down by an agony beyond belief, be kind to your loved ones'
Saturday, 20/07/2019, Opinion: 'If we are to be civilised, decent people, we need to be willing to stand up to evil'
Monday, 29/04/2019, News & Health: 'It's only when you love a person who has a mental illness that you realise how hard it is' The final piece in our three-part series on mental health: The right professional help and strong family support are necessary, but not a panacea, for people with mental health issues, writes psychotherapist Stella O’Malley
Monday, 22/04/2019: ‘ Why we need to learn to listen’ In this second of a three part series on mental health, Stella talks about how before we can ask people to open up about their mental health problems, we need to practise how to respond.
Monday, 15/04/2019, News & Health: ‘Why it's not always 'good to talk'... First in the Independent’s three-part series on mental health: 'We need a new wave of authentic and appropriate mental health discussions'
Tuesday, 12/03/2019, Comment & Opinion: Grooming of victims by sexual predators is a devastating betrayal of a child's trust'.
Thursday, 17/01/2019: Have we got it wrong about phones? As yet another contradictory study claims that screen time isn't as damaging for children as we first thought, psychologist Stella O'Malley sifts through the facts and asks if sometimes a little bit of bad can actually be good for us
Friday, 20/07/2018: 'Smartphone Orphans: Are Irish parents on their phones too much in front of their children?' Stella tells Independent.ie that Irish parents need to create their own boundaries and even sometimes allow their children to call them out if their smartphone use has become excessive.
Sunday, 24/06/2018: 'Children as young as four are self-harming - we can't turn a blind eye to mental health' When Stella first read about children as young as four presenting with mental health difficulties, such as self-harming behaviour and anxiety, she sighed heavily. Have we really come to this?, Stella wonders.
Thursday, 31/05/2018: ''Lies Leave Victims Shattered' Writing in Irish Independent about the effects of the adoption controversy.
Friday, 25/05/2018, Entertainment TV news: 'Hurting the ones most in need? - Parents of teens watching ‘13 Reasons Why’ should grasp this opportunity.' The return of '13 Reasons Why' sparked fresh concerns about suicide on screen, but has the industry learned from its mistakes, Stella asks in this article.
Tuesday, 01/05/2018: 'Shameful deception destroyed mothers' right to tell their children the truth.' An article talking about the smear test scandal that rocked the country in April 2018.
Thursday, 09/03/2018: 'We must stop the blame game and face evil among us to protect our vulnerable'
Sunday, 18/02/2018, Life: 'Success isn't everything, kids need to learn from failure, too'
Wednesday, 25/01/2018, Life: 'How To Keep Your Child From Online Predators'
Saturday, 30/12/2107, News: 'Easy Access To Hardcore Porn Means Teens Need Help To Navigate Boundaries'
Thursday, 18/10/2017, Opinion: 'Equality can be achieved by a healthy life work balance - for us all'
Wednesday, 17/10.2017. 'Life': 'Licence To Thrill' where I explain that we are actually 'hardwired' to take risks
Monday, 25/09/2017, 'Life':'One girl would actually ‘moo’ every time I passed her in the corridors' - mum-of-one on being bullied' Denise Smith talking to me about how to cope when your child is being targeted.
Saturday, 26/08/2107, Life 'Parenting': 'Eight expert tips for raising bully-proof kids' - Eight ways to give your child the tools to navigate the minefield of growing up
Wednesday, 18/04/2017, Life: 'Raising Children in age of anxiety' Handling the anxious child – should we indulge their anxieties or ignore their anxieties?
Saturday, 17/12/2016, News: 'Tragic case highlights shameful treatment of carers in our society': discussing the mistreatment of carers in Ireland
Saturday, 03/12/2016, Opinion: 'Now is the time for adults to show they're on the child's side' : exploring how parents should respond to bullying
Saturday, 20/11/2016, Life: 'We might just end up with more Trumps - and fewer Michael Ds' : Why do we focus on performance in childhood?
Monday, 14/11/2016, Opinion: 'We should avoid "medicalising" kids who are perhaps just a bit different' : dealing with children with different needs
Wednesday, 02/11/2016, Opinion: 'Forget pay rises, the unions should be focusing on winning greater job satisfaction for workers'
Thursday, 27/10/2016, Opinion: 'Strike is teaching our children one thing: That's OK to hurt those relying on you if it means better wages'
Saturday, 13/08/2016, Opinion: 'Why letting teens like Malia make mistakes is a good parenting tip' : exploring Malia Obama smoking marijuana and how to deal with a famous Dad
Thursday, 14/07/2016, Life: 'Comment: Have we become this squalid that we sexualise a mother's kiss?' : the response to Victoria Beckham kissing her child
Saturday, 17/04/2016, Weekend: 'We should teach our kids to thrive in the system - not opt out' : About the education system
Saturday, 06/12/2015, Life: 'With Christmas comes the plea for gadgets but should kids have them' : discussing whether we allow our kids more technology
Saturday, 24/10/2015, Life: 'Most parents are actually good enough. Let them keep the final say' : how parents are losing their status and power over their children
Saturday, 26/09/2015, News: ‘It’s our job as parents to look after broken and unsure children’ : bullying and how parents can protect their kids
Friday, 11/09/2015, Opinion: 'Self-harm: How to hear your troubled teen's cry for help' : teenagers and self-harm
Saturday, 22/08/2015, Opinion: 'Teaching empathy can help our children to find success'
Wednesday, 12/08/2015 Opinion: ‘Parents must start leaving their children alone to learn life lessons’ : discussing the pressure of the Leaving Cert results
Saturday, 14/03/2015, News: 'The notion of a family comprising of a mammy, daddy & 2.4 children is a tiny moment in the history of time' - the Philip Larkin poem ‘This be the Verse...’
Saturday, 14/02/2015, Weekend Review ‘Life’: ‘Is a slap on the wrist and a quick hug afterwards more violent than a 6ft man roaring in a two-year-olds face?’
Saturday, 06/ 07/2015, Weekend Review: ''We need to take the controls back from the electronic babysitter and ensure that we have full responsibility for whatever appears on screens in our own households'
Sunday, 31/03/2018: Why we have to face up to the monster of anxiety. She is reluctant to call it an 'epidemic,' but psychotherapist Stella O'Malley is very clear that we need to deal with the disorder of our age: anxiety, writes Emily Hourican
Sunday, 01/04/2018: 'Golden opportunity from the sordid details of a horrible night' - It doesn't matter what side of the argument you find yourself, some good should be made of the awful Belfast rape case.
Sunday, 24/12/2017: 'Beat the blues by learning to live with what life has given you' - Writing about how the sooner we lose the notion of the perfect Christmas, the sooner we can relax and enjoy it.
Sunday, 03/12/2017: 'Psychological abuse at home leaves deepest kind of scars' - Writing about how the The Domestic Violence Bill is right to take into account the trauma of psychological abuse.
Sunday, 08/10/2017: ' 'Yesterday a girl (12) described how a boy in her class sent her an explicit pic' - About parents need to monitor children's online behaviour and accept their emerging sexuality.
Sunday, 27/08/2017, Life 'Parenting': 'What you can do if your child is being bullied' - As we face into a new school year, here Stella’s explains the cliques of childhood groups, why children bully, why they get bullied, and what you can do if your child is a bully, or is bullied
Sunday, 13/08/2017, Life: 'Boys & Girls' - Here, Stella is writing in the Sunday Independent.ie Life magazine about gender confusion
Sunday, 31/07/2016, Opinion: 'Why teaching your kids 'stranger danger' will not keep them safe' : About teaching our children about Stranger Danger
Sunday, 30/03/2014, Lifestyle: 'The tethered generation' : About how our children are tethered to their screens and need to leave the mothership
Sunday, 16/03/2014, Lifstyle: 'The commodified childhood' : About how big business is making millions by creating fear, tension and insecurity in parents
Saturday, 08/12/2018: How to survive Christmas with a difficult family. Stella giving some advice as to how to cope with a difficult family at Christmas
Saturday, 21/07/2018: 'Where do children play? Annoyed resident's letter sparks debate' Do you always know where your children are? And – perhaps more importantly – should you? A debate which ran online over a letter uploaded to Twitter, which had been sent by an “annoyed resident” of Ailesbury Lawn in Dundrum, South Dublin, highlighted the divergence in people’s attitudes towards children playing outside.
Saturday, 16/06/2018. Stella spoke to Jen O Connell for this article in Irish Times 'Creepy, Actually: Romcoms mistake harassment for romance'
Tuesday, 19/12/2017, Life & Style: Writing about how ‘Christmas is gender driven. It's women believing the fun is in their hands’ where 'Women can get very stressed over Christmas . . . feeling a murderous rage’
Friday, 03/11/2017, Sharing her thoughts in an interesting piece on 'Flyers on flirting? The tricky issue of sexual consent on campus'
Saturday, 7/10/2017, Life & Style: Sharing her thoughts in Jennifer O'Connell's article 'Spy kids: the next generation of nursery surveillance devices is here' about the psychological toll on parents of nursery surveillance
Saturday, 12/08/2017, Life-Style & People: 'How to stop your child being bullied – or being a bully'
Tuesday, 07/04/2015, Books: 'Why are we over-parenting, and what damage is it doing our children?'
Friday, 09/08/2019, 86% drop in children cycling to school - In Denmark, there is a law that bans parents from driving children to school if they live less than five miles from the school, Stella thinks something similar could work here, but there are risks.
Friday, 17/08/2018, 'Well-known parents share their back to school tips?' I spoke to the Irish Examiner about the dreaded back to school thing.. Though I think i'd rather holidays lasting forever.
Saturday, 04/08/2018, 'Are Women Really Hardwired to love Thrillers?' Rowena Walsh examines a genre we can't get enough of and Stella threw her thoughts into the debate in the Irish Examiner.
Saturday, 30/06/2018, 'When mum really does know best'. Stella spoke in this article with Rowena Walsh along with other parenting experts in the Irish Examiner about managing our own children over the summer break.
Friday, 01/06/2018, 'Baby in the middle: When a new arrival turns your relationship upside down'. Stella is mentioned in the Irish Examiner talking about how babies impact relationships
Saturday, 30/06/2018, 'Therapists were relieved when the WHO listed gaming addiction as a mental health condition'. Now we can finally call this issue as we see it, Stella writes in this piece.
Sunday, 13/08/2017, Magazine: 'Bully-Proof Kids'
SUNDAY BUSINESS POST
Saturday, 01/09/2017, Irish County Living: 'Bully-Proof'
irish farmers journal
Wednesday, 14/08/2019, Belfast Telegraph: After the death of Nora Quoirin, the world can only look on at tragedies such as this in disbelief and horror
Saturday, 06/07/2019. Irish Mirror: ‘Siobhan O'Connor: 'Quest for Instagram perfection is robbing our children of their youth'. I tell how kids as young as eight or nine are lured into putting funny pictures of themselves on phones with bunny ears and stars, the beginning of a selfie addiction.
Saturday, 29/06/2019, My interview with RSVPLive about ‘revealing the dangers of entertaining your children too much’
Sunday, 23/-6/2019, ‘Larissa Nolan comment: Ana Kriegel murder trial shows we must finally cut kids' access to porn in Ireland’ I have seen a vast increase in the number of boys coming to her “disturbing by themselves” and seeking help.
Tuesday, 17/04/2018, My interview with RSVPLive about Ireland abortion referendum 2018: How should you talk to your child about it? featured in the Irish Mirror
Tuesday, 03/04/2018, My article The conversations parents need to have with their children after the Belfast rape case featured in the Belfast Telegraph
Saturday, 23/12/2017, Longford Leader, featured in a piece on Positive Health Week at Longford town's Meán Scoil Mhuire'
Friday, 22/12/2017, Limerick Post, featured in a piece on 'Beyond the neon runes'
Advice & Comment
Tuesday, 13/08/2019, Life: ‘Back-to-school hacks for busy parents’ - With a new school term just around the corner, Arlene Harris gets some experts’ advice including me on how to prepare for it.
Saturday, 20/07/2019, News: 'He would be completely dehydrated' - mum tells of how transgender son avoided food and water to avoid using school bathroom’ Talking to Aoife Walsh as part of this article.
Wednesday, 01/05/2019, Life & Parenting: 'Mammy, did you hear what I said?' - Do parents need to put the phone away?’ Kathy Donaghy interviewed Stella for this interesting piece in the Irish Independent today on parents and screens.
Wednesday, 10/04/2019, Life & Family: ‘Say Yes To The Communion Dress: It's the 'bridal boutique' experience for children... but is it all just innocent fun?’ Featured in this article talking about shops offering a bridal boutique experience to kids choosing outfits for the big day - complete with photo-friendly podiums. But is it all just innocent fun?
Thursday, 21/03/2019, Entertainment & Television: Do reality TV stars need support in fame game? Sheena McGinley asked what practical advice she would give someone who was considering seeking instant "fame and fortune" via a reality TV show.
Friday, 10/08/2018: Vanity flair! - ‘We live in a society where expectation is escalating and escalating’. Featured in an article by Rose Mary Roche where she looks at the pressure on men to beef up and buff up, and asks what lies behind it.
Friday, 13/04/2018, Life: The best way to talk to young children about the abortion referendum, according to an Irish psychotherapist. An article covering Stella’s chat with radio presenter Dr Ciara Kelly, Lunchtime on Newstalk
Saturday, 01/06/2019, ‘Testing times: Stress management during the exams - for students and parents’ - Experts tell Arlene Harris how parents can best respond if their child’s exams don’t go according to plan.